Codependence 3/3

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It can be even more vulnerable to receive than it is to give...

“I just like to give pleasure” I’m sure you do love to give, but maybe you’re avoiding something in the process. Surrendering to pleasure...

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People of all genders experience relationship anxiety

People read text messages over and over. People lay awake in bed replaying the thing they did or didn’t do. People freeze up and can’t...

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What I really hear when you call someone a narcissist…

What I really hear when you call someone a narcissist… (The following is said with love) “I'm deeply hurt and don't yet have the words to...

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You cannot accurately calibrate intimacy when you're overthinking

Ask yourself, “am I thinking for two?” You can (and I hope you do) have intimacy with yourself by listening to your body, honing your...

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Things I didn't realize were Codependency

Trying to do other people's work for them Walking on eggshells Jumping into problem solving Never letting anyone see me sweat or make...

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Self-Worth, 'Fixing', and Chasing Love...

Beloved. I can show up for you in every way. I can reassure you at every turn. I can drench you with my love so that you may drown in...

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He Wouldn't Let Me Help

He wouldn’t let me pull his splinter. Actually, he often wouldn’t let me help him or offer him comfort at all. This was a somewhat noble...