Hi, I'm Veronica
Hi! I'm Veronica (aka Indelicate Coaching) and your complexity is my specialty.
In sessions, I help single folks and couples resolve the root causes of anxiety and clunky patterns so they can have more fun and understanding in their relationships and daily lives. We do more than talk about how your mind and body experience intimacy, we compost emotional blockages and cultivate new skills for lasting success.
Outside of sessions, I'm hiding under the kitchen counter and giggling until somebody finds me. Otherwise, I'm chatting with clients on Telegram while I look out my window to watch for eagles, owls, foxes, and whales.
What is Veronica's background?
I've learned a lot on my own road to reclaiming pleasure and sensuality after major life transitions, breakups, burnout from a fast-paced career, chronic illness, and a herpes diagnosis. As my adult relationships grow deeper, I am also learning how much I must reprogram my own nervous system and conscious and unconscious beliefs to be able to hold the sweetness, triggers, collaboration, BIG energy, and conflict that comes along with true partnership.
Before following my dream of becoming an anxiety whisperer and intimacy healer, I had a 10+ year career in public service and social justice. My work is holistic, culturally competent, inclusive of many lifestyles, and, yes, a little magical.
In addition to my degrees in Psychology with a minor in Sociology and a Masters in Public Management, I have trained with the Somatica Institute and a very humorous Universe.
I'm a Scorpio moon, cat mom, and a stone cold fox. Currently Upstate New York based with PNW roots.
Equally comfortable with science and spirituality,
I distill complex concepts into
digestible and powerful guidance that anyone
at any experience level can understand
There are no stuffy lessons for you to process in my sessions. I’m blending all that I know about intimacy into something you can actually use right now.
You will come away from every session energized, more comfortable in your body, and with actionable feedback.
Who are your clients?
My clients are singles and partners who...
Want to date better and embody secure attachment...
Desire deeper understanding and conscious connection....
Are ready to heal trauma, subconscious patterns, and anxiety....
Wish to unlock their inner magnetism and powerful sensuality....
Seek support as they experiment with new desires, techniques, and dynamics...
Need to reclaim their body and identity after loss, parenthood, or illness...
Struggle with emotional or physical challenges with sexuality...
KNOW they are ready to tap into the mysteries and MAGIC...
"This is like if therapy was on mushrooms."
"Compared to regular therapy this is so much more purposeful, with a clear goal."
"We've done couples therapy with a PhD psychologist and didn't even get to 10% of what we covered in here in just a few sessions."
How is this different from traditional therapy?
We will do lots of talking, but less storytelling and venting than you might do in talk therapy. Storytelling and analyzing keeps you in your head. If simply discussing our problems could heal us, we'd all be fixed by now. As emotions emerge in our discussion, I will teach you how to really feel them right there in the moment and may also connect to blocks or patterns on a subconscious and nervous system level so they can be healed, released, and reframed.
In this process, you will improve your relationships and enhance your capacity for pleasure and big feelings, find true safety in your body, learn how your body communicates with your mind, and grow more awareness and depth in connection. You will also find that you are less anxious and stressed in your day-to-day life.
What happens in a session?
As a baseline, I will ask you (minimal) questions to understand your relational history or offer you the chance to bring up a challenge or desire for the session. There will always be some light embodiment work which includes small movements and reminders to breathe and feel what is coming up in your body as you speak.
For partners, you will be invited to notice not only your own body and energy but your partner's as well as I help you communicate in increasingly vulnerable, clear, courageous, and sexy ways. You will love deeper and get out of conflict faster as you finally understand all of the unspoken energy and feelings between you.
When stubborn blocks, doubts, and patterns emerge, I will guide you into a conversation with your sensations and conflicting or confusing feelings. In these moments we are likely to get messages from younger, frightened, or even wiser versions of you. We may uncover hidden memories. You might totally crack yourself up or get really inspired by a deep well of love or spirituality you didn't know was there. If that sounds hard to imagine, don't worry, I'm a great driver. All you have to do is be there. These moments are a bit like hypnosis except you get to stay fully conscious and participate! Getting this deep is easier than you might guess, but we will never force it.
This method can bring up a range of excitement, grief, euphoria, physical sensations of relief, and perhaps trauma. I will hold you through all of it and will land the spaceship as softly, and with as much good humor, as possible. The great news is that making contact with the conflict underneath your intellectual understanding of yourself can actually begin the process of eliminating a pattern or limiting belief. That's what transformative means, you will move the ball forward every time.
What methods do you use?
The Indelicate approach to mind-body integration is influenced by many methods including the Somatica Method which teaches empathy and nervous system-level connection through experiential relationship coaching. I also work with principles of Transformational and Transpersonal coaching derived from the Hakomi Method and Somatic Internal Family Systems or 'Parts Work', among others. I'm currently studying shamanic energy work with a Radical Healers collective.
What does experiential mean?
Experiential means going beyond theories and advice. We make the abstract real. You will find out first hand what my clients mean when they say this work feels like magic as you learn to feel and manage emotions in the moment. You will practice real-life strategies to cope with relationship anxiety, survive conflict, and stop patterns in their tracks.
Experiential also means that I am not merely a bystander or critic. I will bring my own energy to our sessions and tell you when I feel lit up, empowered, or inspired by you and kindly redirect you when your energy feels challenging or closed off so you will know how to better give and receive love.
Do we ever meet in person?
All of my sessions are online and they are highly effective and fun that way.
I occasionally arrange in-person sessions with established clients and am available for day-long intensives by request. (Note: I'm roadtripping these days and sometimes organize in person coaching and embodiment sessions that include therapeutic light touch. Currently in Upstate New York and Brooklyn!)
What if I'm already super experienced in sex and relationships? Or what if I'm Not experienced enough?
All lifestyles and cultural backgrounds are welcome here. The underlying issues for most folks are the same regardless of your outward expression. We will always consider your unique lived experience and systemic oppression as a factor in your experience.
I like Your Feet. Can I email you to tell you about it?
Nah, bro. No thanks! That's not what this is.
***Please note that while I am an expert in relationships and sexuality, all sessions are fully clothed and that client and coach will never date or have sex and I'd really rather not receive flirty comments from strangers.***
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What Coaching Packages Do You Offer?
Take a peek at the sessions below!
Deep Dive Sessions include life coaching, energy work for healing and creation, and relationship strategies. These are the sessions that come with my Couples Program and Wizard Practice.
You can also browse my self-paced courses and my book Indelicate Intimacy.
You will see that I work with both singles and partnered folks of all genders. Keep an eye out for offers and packages as they are announced by following me on social media or my email list.
P.S. Marketing and mass outreach is not my strongest suit (I'm not a salesperson!) so if you're curious, I strongly suggest you message me to communicate your interest so we can go from there! indelicate.coaching@gmail.com
Book a Service
2 hr 45 min
444 US dollars
What if I feel scared to spend the money or get started?
This applies to working with me AND to relationships in general:
Making a financial and personal leap can feel really exciting and also overwhelming at the same time.
You might be worried or experiencing doubt. That voice can be really loud sometimes. Notice your thoughts and the sensations in your body. Take your time getting comfortable with the idea of stepping outside of your comfort zone.
You might never be all the way ready, but you're welcome to pause to check in with yourself before committing. Remember that something brought you here to me. Something that you've wanted for a long time. Feel how that lands in your system and go from there.
No matter what, this work will change you.
You may not be able to see it now or maybe you're holding very tightly to a specific goal and afraid that you won’t get it. I can guarantee that you will grow in my Somatic Intimacy Training and that you will level up in many aspects of your life, not just in romance. I am very skilled at balancing what you need with what you desire and will help you pursue both in a safe and methodical way.
I won't make it my job to convince you, but I welcome you to share with me what is holding you back.
Remember, you can message me with questions or go all out and try a session! I welcome you to get comfy with me before you commit.
So much love and see you soon, Veronica
xoxox
More Feedback!
"Better quality, felt better, and was more intimate than every certified relationship therapist I have ever been to."
"I feel so much more powerful in my body and I'm grateful for that."
"I used to get long lasting twitches, spontaneous swelling, even intense menstrual/ovulation symptoms. Now I am not getting triggered as often and haven't felt physical manifestations of anxiety in a while."
"I feel more at peace now than I ever have."
"Thank you for holding so much space and for completely f*king up my world."
"You taught me what it actually means to self soothe and now I know how to manage my relationship anxiety."
"This is faster and more effective and is really more about how you master your self in general, instead of getting mired in feelings and details."
"I've felt a major shift in how I show up in relationship. I catch my triggers so much quicker before putting pressure on my partner to fix it."
"I love the way I can relax into deeper levels of intimacy with others now!"
"It's like loving each other really well at whole new level thanks to you."